Just recently, there have actually been great developments in the field of self-management. Authentic and rational living is certainly the ultimate goal of self-management. We have all the endowments to live up to this goal, if we simply find ourselves, and seek to recuperate from the self-limiting beliefs and self-defeating behavior.
The Author (2005 )
Expect you were given a white ring when you were born. You grew up thinking that the ring was silver.
Now how would you treat this ring-as silver or as gold? If you wish to offer it; would you request the rate of silver or the price of gold?
If you had currently offered it for the rate of silver, and you found later on that the ring was in fact a golden one. I believe you would.
If you go back to this story, what would you finish with something you only presume, however you are unsure if it is true?
I believe the best way is go and ask, go to a jewelry expert. You examine to discover. No one can handle anything he or she does not acknowledge.
This reasoning applies perfectly to your assumption or belief about yourself. If you are raised to think in an imaginary self, rather than an authentic one, this will be your self-fulfilling prophecy unless you change your self-limiting beliefs. Eleanor Roosevelt has wonderfully put it when she stated, “Somehow we learn who we actually are and then cope with that choice.” For instance, if you were rejected in your early life (external occasion), and ended up being hard on yourself, blaming yourself (internal response) for not being good enough to be accepted. You are then detaching from your authentic self and connecting with a fiction that might not have anything to do with you and a lot to do with the one who declined you. You will live with the self-belief you created and by the choice of not approaching brand-new individuals to safeguard yourself from any additional or future rejection.
Researchers have demonstrated the self-fulfilling prediction of people’s restricting beliefs with speculative bugs. They put a lot of fleas in a glass jar, with a cover on it. Not surprisingly, the fleas leapt so high that they struck the lid, again and again. They began to jump about half an inch short of the cover. Based upon the history, and in conformance with the environment, the fleas limit what they enabled themselves to do. When the cover was removed, the fleas were not knowledgeable about the brand-new option, and did not jump any greater to get away. Self-conditioning on some restricting or beating beliefs is the bad news. Nevertheless, the bright side is that: “so long as we have the power to script our beliefs, we have the power to alter the script.” Our authentic self is just buried under our own self-concept; it is never ever lost. We just need to recover it, and totally free its self-control from the jail of our self-defeating beliefs. Self-recovery means rising above our raising, however this can not be attained without honest self-discovery.
Your belief that the ring was silver, or that your self is imaginary is your personal reality. Even though your personal reality is not a truth, it is definitely real to you; and you might extremely easily betray yourself by living up to an image that is not you or yours. We use up more energy to live by a fictional self than to live by a genuine self, the return is not favorable, particularly in the long run.
The truth does not have to be always real.
We need to examine our individual reality for precision.
When we find that our personal truth is inaccurate, we must look for to alter it.
Analyzing our own self-concept might be the very best present we ever provide ourselves.
The journey of self-discovery might be difficult and/or long, but it is definitely the most crucial journey you can ever make in your life. All of us have to begin this journey and “now” is the best time for our liftoff. In the following, I will give you some guidelines that you can bring with you in your self discovery and healing trip.
What you see always depends on you.
What you see can just be genuine to you.
What you think in is not always true.
A lie undisputed ends up being the truth.
The reality is not always accurate or true.
Your self-concept is your individual fact.
Your self-concept presents the image you select to show it to the world.
So long as you have the power to choose, you have the power to change.
Ensure that the authentic self is your last destination in the journey of self discovery.
Breaking away from your fictional self can be compared to the area shuttle bus leaving the atmosphere; the more you become near your genuine self, the less energy you require to reach your final destination, and live easily and contentedly by and for the “real you.”
By: Dr. Yehia A. Ibrahim, Ph.D
. University Professor and Expert in
Human Being Resources and Organizational Development
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If you are raised to believe in an imaginary self, rather than an authentic one, this will be your self-fulfilling prophecy unless you alter your self-limiting beliefs. You are then detaching from your authentic self and linking with a fiction that may not have anything to do with you and an entire lot to do with the one who declined you. Our genuine self is only buried under our own self-concept; it is never ever lost. Your belief that the ring was silver, or that your self is imaginary is your personal reality. We expend more energy to live by an imaginary self than to live by an authentic self, the return is not favorable, especially in the long run.